Do you find you often assume the outcome of something before you have even taken the action?


For example, you want to contact someone you'd love to work with. But before you have even taken the first step, your mind has already jumped to thoughts like:

  • why they might not reply

  • you should drop it, it's going to take so long to write up a proposal and what if it's all for nothing?

  • what you need to do have in place before you reach out

  • they may say no

Why is it that even when we have all of the information and ability to take an action we are excited about... negative thoughts still get in the way?


You know somewhere in your mind that these thoughts aren't actually real. There are so many potentialities, positive ones too, yet why is it so hard to move past these? They show up and often times, lead us to self-sabotage and miss out on deeply enriching opportunities in our lives, all because we took these automatic negative thoughts as truth and didn't know how to manage them.


If you've ever unsuccessfully coached yourself in such moments and tried to sprinkle a set of positive comebacks at that negativity, here's why it doesn't work:


We can’t talk, research or think our way out of negative thought patterns.


You can't fight thought with thought.


We don't take action based on what we know, we take action based on how we feel.


Although there are some nuances between what it means to have a feeling and an emotion, don’t get bogged down in the rhetoric of these terms.


The most important thing is to first understand yourself. Whatever is happening inside of you needs to be understood by you! Even if you happen to go through therapy or counselling, no one will ever truly be able to tell you about what you’re experiencing within.


This is a journey that we all have to navigate for ourselves. And finding a way to connect and influence your own feelings at any given moment is a good place to start.


It should become obvious over time that information is not enough for you to resolve the negative thoughts that stop you from going after your dreams. Because if it were true that information alone was sufficient, this is something every one would have mastered already, — by reading more books or doing more research, right? So there must be something else.


We need to connect with our emotions if we wish to transform our behaviour and attitude towards a challenge such as this one.

Our entire system of education is in some ways a psychological trap that leads us to believe that the answers to our most important questions lie outside of ourselves.


Get Curious


One place to start is getting curious about the stories that show up in these moments. Our brain is just trying to protect us from danger. Anything uncomfortable and unknown sends of alarm bells and so, fear-based feelings and thoughts show up. It's pretty normal. Once I understood this, I was able to influence my mindset a little better.


"Hey brain, I know you're only trying to protect me because this is something new.

It's okay, I see you. Let's do it anyway."


Visualise How You Want to Feel


To get into flow, taking the time to visualise exactly how you wish to feel in the process is an instant way to connect to your emotions.


A key thing here, notice I didn't say to visualise the outcome you wish to create. While sometimes this can be motivating, you can't actually control the outcome no matter what you do which could lead to greater disappointment, and we're back where we started. So why not focus on what you can actually control, which is you and the input that goes into the next step.


Did you know your brain can't distinguish the difference between something real and something imagined? Now imagine if every time you had a limiting belief show up, you replaced it with strong thoughts, images and feelings of the reality you actually wanted. How much would that shift your life and your character over time?


Learn a Spiritual Practice


To transform this in the long term, we must go through the process of unlearning. Learning a spiritual practice that allows you to connect with something beyond your mind and body is one of the best ways to do so. One year ago, I got serious about yoga and meditation and not the 15-min yoga sequences you see on YouTube. The practices I do now are simple, few and profound and started off with me just sitting in silence for 5-min in the beginning. If you're interested in finding out more, send me a message!


Mantras


Journaling and developing mantras for yourself are a great way to rewire the neurological pathways in our brain and implement new thinking patterns that serve rather than limit us.

A key thing is, they actually need to resonate with you emotionally. Quality over quantity!


Here are some that have been helpful for me when I find myself getting too caught up in overthinking and over-preparing:

  • Everything meant for me will always find its way to me.

  • The possibilities for me are endless!

  • My brain is only trying to protect me, thank you, I see you. Now let’s do this!

By practicing these consistently, over time, your subconscious will start to replace these automatic negative thoughts with empowering ones!


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Lina


Lina Vasquez is a Holistic Learning Coach, YouTuber and Co-Founder of A Life OnPurpose & LVL Holistic Learning. Her work seeks to revolutionise the education sector by fostering deep, holistic, human connection on a global level; doing so in 7 languages.


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At the beginning of my pregnancy, I made a deep commitment to myself…

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With an unequivocal fierceness, I was going to trust myself and my intuition FULLY – with every single decision I faced. This is something that has always been quite challenging for me to do.


I knew that the woman who would birth my child and the woman I was in the present moment would not be the same person.


How could she be?


How can this person who stood before me in the mirror remain unshaken after the process of childbirth?


Going from a maiden to a mother, almost every day, challenges to my boundaries presented themselves. Each sphere of my life began to drip out that stale, non-serving energy; begging for a deep rejuvenation.


A birth was coming; physically, mentally, spiritually and emotionally. The path of my growth was not ending. I had been blessed with new challenges that would mould me into a higher state of consciousness.


Have you ever found it difficult to trust your inner voice? Especially when you know that standing up for yourself will displease the other person or cause a conflict?

🚨 DISCOMFORT ALERT 🚨


I can’t count the amount of times in my pregnancy I heard the following:


  • Aren’t you scared of the birth?

  • Are you nervous?

  • Wait, you’re moving to Mexico mid-way through pregnancy?

  • Better sleep as much as you can now, because when the baby comes….


These were just a few.


What would have happened to my state if I had let these questions consume me?


If I, even for a second, tapped into the energy of nervousness or fear?


How would that benefit me?


That is why it is so vital to find a way to protect yourself from the limitations of others. They have no meaning until you allow them to.


“You can’t get advice from someone else about how to live your life.”

Even before I got pregnant, through my spiritual journey, I began creating a sacred place internally that was protected from the influence of others. I had begun my quest with the map of Sadhana (ego-transcending spiritual practice).


I was not afraid at any point of the process of giving birth and going into labour and avoided reading any stories or material that would send my mind in another direction. This was key to overcoming the limitations of external influences.


I had created a barrier between what I chose to be and what I was told I should be.

The freedom I experienced from this cannot be measured!


I knew with dead-set certainty that I was going to have a beautiful, unmedicated birth; relying solely on my breath and body; that they would know what to do when the time came. I had found a path to tranquility through the breath and trust in my body. The result is I now have power over my faculties, peace in my mind, connection with my body, and peace within. None of these things were given to me by anyone. Therefore no one can ever take this from me.


I worked out every single day and didn’t let fears like “what if I hurt the baby” or “something could go wrong” get in my way. I became the champion of my decisions and let my heart lead me to salvation.

pregnant woman fitness


I committed to my spiritual & yogic practice every single day both by myself and with my partner to send a positive frequency to the baby. And, as each week passed, even my doctor was astounded at the level of my health and physical fitness with no usual symptoms like swelling, cramping, fatigue etc.


The people at my gym were astounded at a 39-week pregnant woman coming in every few days, working out on the elliptical next to them and even my clients still couldn’t fully believe I was that far along in my pregnancy as I worked until the day I gave birth.


(Of course it wasn't all easy-breezy; the aches and pains of a growing baby and those beautiful kicks added some spice right as I was going to sleep every night 😉).


But, because of my commitment to protecting my thoughts and emotions from outside influence as well as taking care of my health and fitness, I had the most beautiful pregnancy and birth imaginable. After 19 hours of labour, I gave birth to a gorgeous, healthy and strong baby. All without any anaesthesia or medication and absolutely no scarring or tearing whatsoever. The next day I was already home, back to my yoga practice, going for a walk with my hubby and baby.


And this is how the story begins. This is not the end, it’s only the beginning. This birth gives true meaning to the word commencement.


My life is now a trajectory that goes beyond any boundaries set by others.



Lina Vasquez is a Holistic Learning Coach, YouTuber and Co-Founder of A Life OnPurpose & LVL Holistic Learning. Her work seeks to revolutionise the education sector by fostering deep, holistic, human connection on a global level; doing so in 7 languages.


If you are a new or expecting mother and would like to find out more about these holistic practices and how to incorporate them into your life, connect with Lina HERE.



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If you ever needed a reason to lock in that foreign language lesson — this is it! You've probably heard of the multiple benefits of learning a new language (or improving one that's gotten a little rusty), improved memory, better listening skills, more access to information,..


But did you know that being multilingual makes you a better entrepreneur and has shown to have huge advantages in business? And it's not in the way you might think.


As a polyglot, global educator and holistic learning coach, I have seen first hand from my clients and within my own career the incredible advantages being multilingual brings you.


  1. If you solely speak and use English in your life, you are currently only able to connect to around 17% of the world. A good entrepreneur is only as good as their ability to connect to others. Therefore, the more languages you are able to communicate in, the more access you gain to a greater scope of prospective clients & investors.

  2. Multilinguals deal better with linguistic & communication conflicts, which can be 'make or break' in the business world. 64% of executives admit to misunderstandings having halted business deals and even lead to losses of up to $62 million per year due to poor communication. As a multilingual, you pick up more on communicative nuances, such as a disconnect in ones behaviour to their wording or subtle shifts in tonality or body language.

  3. Polyglots are known to be better multitaskers and are better at managing multiple projects, clients & challenges at once. It's not about doing multiple things at once, but rather, managing and shifting between several responsibilities in your every day life; every entrepreneur knows what I'm talking about right here. Multilingual brains have been shown to be more capable of improved attention, awareness and better verbal & spacial abilities.

  4. Multilinguals are better decision-makers. Studies have shown that multilinguals tend to be more resistant to conditioning and framing techniques used in sales, making them less likely to be swayed by language in advertisements or political campaign speeches. Therefore, having an increased awareness and ability for critical thinking.

  5. On average, they have increased resilience and confidence. It is no secret that expressing yourself in another language (or four) requires patience, determination and comes with facing a lot of hits to the ego. These are vital skills in entrepreneurship, which allow for quicker growth and progress as they tend to be more willing to lean into areas that challenge them and lead to growth.

What are your thoughts? Are you bilingual or multilingual? How have your languages abilities impacted you in business and working relationships?


Share your story in the comment section below!

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